Stop judging. This is a tough one. We seem to be programed to judge others constantly. We make assumptions about people by the way they look, where they live, what they do for a living, before we ever experience how they behave.
Everywhere we look in secular society, in the news and social media, we are bombarded with criticism of others. There is money to be made from digging up dirt, ruining reputations, name calling, accusations and manipulation of the truth.
In a similar fashion, our view of others can be distorted by our own inadequacies. St. Augustine says, “Try to acquire the virtues which you think your brothers lack, and you will no longer see their defects, because you will not have them yourselves.”
How is mercy measured? Well, the Lord is very clear; the measure with which we measure, will be measured out to us. Ouch. St. Augustine’s tip is worth taking to heart.
Making it a personal commitment to work on developing the seven heavenly virtues (which include the three theological virtues of faith, hope and charity, and the four cardinal virtues of fortitude, justice, temperance and prudence), might seem daunting, but if it creates in us, the ability to love and forgive, to the point where we are unconditionally accepting, it will be worth it, especially when our turn to be judged for all eternity, rolls around.